Monday, February 29, 2016
I AM NOT THE PROBLEM, THEY NEED TO CHANGE
At Valueselling.be we sometimes do some coaching. You would be surprised to hear what high level executives are struggling with. Listen in.
“I am so sick and tired of the people in my company!”
“Oops. Sounds depressing.”
“You need to help me, give me some perspective, Jan.”
“Suppose you could replace your boss, your colleagues and your staff, would your problem then be resolved?”
“If I could choose them all myself, you would see some dynamics in here! You have no idea what I have to carry as a legacy. Pure waste.”
“That’s not easy.”
“No, you bet.”
“Now, you’re not going to be able to replace all these people immediately, are you?”
“That’s the tragedy, yes.”
“What can you change immediately?”
“What do you mean?”
“Do you know the wise words of Saint Francis of Assisi?”
“My religious literacy is quite limited, I must admit.”
“Lord, grant me the strength to accept the things I cannot change, give me the courage to change the things I can, and give me wisdom to know the difference.”
“That is very wise. What does it mean for me?”
“What can you change about yourself, for example? There you will have immediate impact.”
“What do I need to change about myself? Nothing. I am not the problem. They are.”
“That’s right.”
“Exactly.”
“But you suffer from this situation.”
“You bet!”
“It is too heavy for you.”
“Actually, yes.”
“And if this situation continues, then what will be the effect on your health?”
“Look, we have a very large project, we need to close that deal. It is big and complex. There are many risks involved for us.”
“Oh so. Suppose you mess up, then what happens? What if you do not win the deal?”
“Yes, then our ceo will be very dissatisfied.”
“OK, imagine the ceo is very unhappy, what happens then?”
“Yes, we will lose his support.”
“OK, what if we lose his support, then what happens?”
“Yes, it will bring our division into trouble, and that’s not good for the results.”
“OK, what if we have bad results, then what happens?”
“Yes, then the company goes down the drain, and I have to go find another job.”
“How old are you now?”
“Uh, 36.”
“You will immediately and another job, maybe an even more fun and better paid job. You do not have to worry anyway. You understand?”
“Uh, yeah, sure.”
“You said your colleagues are useless. What do you think they think about you?”
“Probably the same.”
“You like that?”
“Mmmm.”
“What is the effect of your dissatisfaction on your colleagues?”
“Bof, not good for sure. I see what you are getting at. Blame me.”
“You have three options: replace your colleagues, leave the company or do something about your attitude. Which do you think will be the most successful in the short term?”
“My attitude? Wise guy!”
“I am so sick and tired of the people in my company!”
“Oops. Sounds depressing.”
“You need to help me, give me some perspective, Jan.”
“Suppose you could replace your boss, your colleagues and your staff, would your problem then be resolved?”
“If I could choose them all myself, you would see some dynamics in here! You have no idea what I have to carry as a legacy. Pure waste.”
“That’s not easy.”
“No, you bet.”
“Now, you’re not going to be able to replace all these people immediately, are you?”
“That’s the tragedy, yes.”
“What can you change immediately?”
“What do you mean?”
“Do you know the wise words of Saint Francis of Assisi?”
“My religious literacy is quite limited, I must admit.”
“Lord, grant me the strength to accept the things I cannot change, give me the courage to change the things I can, and give me wisdom to know the difference.”
“That is very wise. What does it mean for me?”
“What can you change about yourself, for example? There you will have immediate impact.”
“What do I need to change about myself? Nothing. I am not the problem. They are.”
“That’s right.”
“Exactly.”
“But you suffer from this situation.”
“You bet!”
“It is too heavy for you.”
“Actually, yes.”
“And if this situation continues, then what will be the effect on your health?”
“Look, we have a very large project, we need to close that deal. It is big and complex. There are many risks involved for us.”
“Oh so. Suppose you mess up, then what happens? What if you do not win the deal?”
“Yes, then our ceo will be very dissatisfied.”
“OK, imagine the ceo is very unhappy, what happens then?”
“Yes, we will lose his support.”
“OK, what if we lose his support, then what happens?”
“Yes, it will bring our division into trouble, and that’s not good for the results.”
“OK, what if we have bad results, then what happens?”
“Yes, then the company goes down the drain, and I have to go find another job.”
“How old are you now?”
“Uh, 36.”
“You will immediately and another job, maybe an even more fun and better paid job. You do not have to worry anyway. You understand?”
“Uh, yeah, sure.”
“You said your colleagues are useless. What do you think they think about you?”
“Probably the same.”
“You like that?”
“Mmmm.”
“What is the effect of your dissatisfaction on your colleagues?”
“Bof, not good for sure. I see what you are getting at. Blame me.”
“You have three options: replace your colleagues, leave the company or do something about your attitude. Which do you think will be the most successful in the short term?”
“My attitude? Wise guy!”
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